COMING TOGETHER--80

Mom has not been eating dinner lately. She says she is not hungry; she has said this before and I have intimidated her into eating but now I won't do it. I have given up on trying to get Mom to eat normally healthy food. She is not interested.

I have given up on worrying about her losing weight. I have given up on worrying about her welfare if I am not there. So I am spending less time with her, telling her more things to do and remember, even if she can't.

I am tired of living with her, but I know this is not over. I left her early today just because I am tired of her demands, her manipulative demands, her helplessness. She likes to ask me to do everything for her, like she was a baby and I am tired of that. I keep looking for some resolution, some improvement in our situation.

I am very comfortable in her apartment, but I'm also dissatisfied with my life--always giving myself up for her. It's not that I resent things she did in the past so much as I need some degree of privacy and rest. I don't ever get mental rest, caring for her 24-7. I'm not a nurse who can go home after 8 hours and on weekends. I can't go anywhere.

I wish she would get better but I know she never will. She is a demanding, manipulative woman who always got away with it. I'm tired of always being drained by her demands and constant harrassing questions. She follows me around the apartment, she questions me about everything. Yet, I have to realize I am much better off financially with her in her place.

And so it goes.